Are you a social media supporter or stalker?

I’m not asking if you support social media, I’m asking if you support those you choose to ‘follow’ or ‘friend’? Be honest. Do you support them? Do you ‘like’ their posts, do you write a little comment here and there? Do you take a second of your time of day to support them and what they’re promoting because surely you are following them for a reason?!?…. Perhaps they’re a friend, they’re family, you find them interesting or inspirational, you like what they’re selling, they’re actually a cute animal or kid, they’re travelling the world, they’re living #vanlife, they post the ultimate #foodporn.

Or, perhaps you just scroll, look OR you even judge them or compare yourself to them?!?! If that was the case though surely you’d just unfollow or unfriend them? What has brought me to writing this post is that I have been reflecting on my own social media etiquette, actions and boundaries recently.

I try to abide my own boundaries. For example, I don’t like to be on social media or even have my phone on the table whilst eating a meal with my husband or with others, I turn my phone on aeroplane mode for a few hours each Sunday and I’m working on leaving my phone alone an hour or 2 before going to bed each night. I was doing this for a little while and noticed I slept so much better… No 3am wake-ups!

For me, etiquette and actions go hand in hand. I’m not one to scroll and scroll without showing a bit of love and support. I follow people for a reason and I like to acknowledge that and them with a quick little ‘like’ or comment. My scrolling goes a little like this:

Ohh that country/landscape looks beautiful…. *Like

Those pancakes look mouthwatering… *Like

Oh my goshhh, I want a tiger…. *Like and Comment, “Amazing animals” *heart emoji (Black Jaguar White Tiger often gets some love from me. 🙂 )

Wow FRIEND is talented. I love that bag… *Like

Dammnn, she looks strong/fit/like she appreciates her body… *Like & Comment, “You look incredible (muscle emoji and pink hearts)

Ohh they’re engaged…. *Like and Comment, “Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both! (flowers, ring, champagne, kiss face emojis)

And so it goes on….

How is your etiquette when asking other people questions online? If you ask someone their favourite clothing line, the ingredients to a recipe, what their workout involved, what country they’re in, do you actually say ‘Hello’ first and use your manners? Constantly, I see people asking others questions with NO politeness. Basically, I think you should talk to people on social media the same way you would if you were face to face. Just be nice people. Just. Be. nice.

I have also noticed myself, that there are a couple of people who follow me who are ALWAYS the first to watch my Instagram stories (which come up based on who YOU choose to watch) and are obviously seeing what I’m doing yet don’t do a single thing to show their support on any of the social avenues they follow me. I’ve also seen and heard people scrolling and judging people they follow… Like, really?!?! Just unfollow them! Why bother following people and becoming ‘friends’ with people if you don’t like them or what they have to share? Errggh #judgy #nosey #stalker #negativenancys

I recently went through my Instagram account and unfollowed any accounts that I no longer found interesting or that made me feel the need to compare myself to them. I was following a lot of accounts with people’s goal weights, current weights, meals counted out to the macro, and I realised they no longer served my interests. Subconsciously, I was thinking I needed to weigh XXkg to look fit, skinny or as good as ‘her’. I don’t think I’ve ever judged these people themselves, I had just judged myself against them with me always being weak, unworthy, fatter and thinking I would think I would have to eat exactly what they ate to get there. Not healthy, at all! Honestly, go through your following accounts and unfollow any that don’t make you feel great.

I love this Spirit Junkie post because I have some truly incredible friends in Australia and now the UK and we genuinely are each other’s cheerleaders wanting each other to succeed. It’s amazing having friends who believe in your ambitions, support you and are genuinely happy for your successes but are there for you if things don’t work out, which can happen often when you take risks. I have been applying this to my social media accounts too. My Instagram friends are people who inspire me, and I now follow many more people with similar mindsets and lifestyles.

UNADJUSTEDNONRAW_thumb_9ae

Please, choose to be a supporter and not a stalker. Or, unfollow.

Sincerely,

Supporter of beautiful destinations, family, friends, fitness, kids, animals, delicious looking food, makeup, skincare, clothing, sunsets, sunrises and all things health and wellness. xx

Rachael x

My Top 5 places to eat and drink in York.

When we decided to take a road trip from London and head on up to York I had no idea what to expect and once I started telling friends and colleagues about our little getaway, without fail, they ALL said what a lovely, historic city it is with quality pubs, restaurants and bars lining the streets…. They weren’t wrong! I had a work colleague send me a list of places to try and so these places are based on those recommendations. We ventured into other bars too but these listed venues were our favourites.

1). Revolution York: This bar is an iconic building with an amazing view as it is right on the river. There are 2 levels and it is very spacious which as we saw on the Saturday night, is required because it can get so busy! There were hens parties everywhere! If you’re trying to meet a lady, it’s the place for you…. obviously don’t go for the women wearing the veils and ‘Hen’ sashes. The decor is trendy and hip and you can walk through the patio doors to wine or dine outside. We were in luck with the weather and everyone was out enjoying the warmth of the sunshine! On Fridays they have 2 for 1 cocktails and we had the best Espresso Martinis (in my opinion)! On the Saturday we had an Espresso Martini in a funky reggae bar, Turtle bay…. It didn’t compare with Revolution. The food at Revolution was very tasty too… We enjoyed a burger with fries/sweet potato fries. Overall, fantastic view, ambience and cocktails!


2). The Evil Eye: A lounge/bar specialising in my favourite beverage, gin, and they’re popular for their cocktails. I had a sensational gin (a double) and started giving Kurt the eye so we had to go. 😉




3). The Three Legged Mare: We stumbled into this pub on our way home Friday night for ‘one last drink’ and we were so glad we did! There was a group of locals casually playing the most epic folk music! They were amazing! We danced and we danced… Ok, I danced and I danced. So, I recommend heading along on a Friday as they have open folk music night every Friday.

4). Mumbai Lounge: an Indian restaurant suggested to us with impeccable service! The food was superb too. We shared some garlic and cheese naan as well as Chicken Tikka. When I saw another couple’s meals come out before ours I was concerned the one meal wouldn’t be enough but it was the perfect portion for us to be satisfied, full but not bursting at the seams needing to undo our buttons full.

5). Mannion and Co. Kitchen: A popular brunch venue which we found through Trip Advisor. We arrived at 9:45 to see they opened at 10 and there was already a queue! We took this as a good sign and they did not let us down! I enjoyed a yummy Eggs Benedict with ham and Kurt enjoyed a Yorkshire Rarebit (melted cheese and bacon on toast) as well as a sausage roll which was also very tasty. We took a slice of Rocky Road for ‘the road’ and ohhhh myyy goodness…. DELICIOUS!!


Please, do let me know if you go to these places or if you have been. York is such a beautiful, old city and we also loved the Museum Gardens (where they have the best little ice cream stand), walking the walls, seeing Clifford’s Tower and also admiring the York Minster. 

Tigerlilys Tales on Beauty: My experience with Eyelash Extensions!

little rrhI’m sure you know the story… “Oh, Granny, what big eyes you have!”

“All the better to see you with my dear!”

Come on…. can’t a gal have eyelash extensions without people jumping to conclusions?!?! Perhaps Granny was ahead of her time and had extensions??

 

Anyway, now that I have your attention. Eyelash extensions are amazing with making your eyes appear brighter, bolder and well obviously your lashes are fuller and longer… Mascara, no more! You may decide to go for volume instead of length, whichever look you prefer. It’s a beauty treatment I’ve only noticed in the last 6 months but I think I’ve been living under a rock because I’ve been reading forums and some women mention they’ve been having their lashes filled for 10 years.

I decided to give it a try, and to be honest, at first I was hesitant because I didn’t want to add an unnecessary or expensive treatment to my regime and I was concerned that they would damage my natural lashes. I wanted to give it a try though and Golden Eyelashes  in Hammersmith, London was my pick of choice.

UNADJUSTEDNONRAW_thumb_9a3

I could’ve plucked my brows, right?! 

If you haven’t had eyelash extensions before, here are a few tips:

  • Ensure your eyes are nice and clean from any eye makeup beforehand
  • Turn up ahead of time in case you have any questions for your technician and so you have time to chat about the look you would like
  • Be prepared to relax and enjoy laying down for potentially 2-3 hours for your first visit.

 

It doesn’t hurt when the lashes are being applied although towards the end, when it is time for you to open your eyes, you may feel some irritation or slight pain due to the fact that your lid is being pulled away after being closed for a few hours and perhaps some glue has been caught between some lashes. If you do experience any pain or discomfort, just communicate that with the technician. Mira at Golden Eyelashes has always been very knowledgeable and helpful if I’ve ever had any queries or concerns. I’ve almost fallen asleep a couple of times and many women do.

Our lashes naturally fall out and regrow therefore extensions do too. It is more noticeable though because they are thicker, longer and darker so don’t be alarmed when you see them on your pillowcase, mirror, ground… anywhere.

To ensure your lashes are well looked after and last as long as possible, it is highly advised that you do not wet them for 24 hours after having them applied, don’t use skincare or makeup products containing oil because the oil will break down the glue. Doh… I learnt this the hard way! I had bought some Charlotte Tilbury prior to having the lashes applied (which my skin is loving) so I’m now being ultra careful around the eyes. Also, mascara and eyeliners can cause them to fall out faster due to the fact that they are being tugged when you apply product and if you’re rubbing your delicate eye area to clean the makeup off. PRO: You don’t actually need mascara though! The lash technicians give you a dry mascara wand because you should brush them every day to ensure they don’t tangle which can lead to them falling out.

The only times I have been wearing eye makeup is if I have a special outing and after a few weeks when there are fewer lashes. On a daily basis, I do not apply mascara anymore and I love this! It might only be five minutes I’m saving but that’s an extra five minutes of sleep for me. I also do not miss the hectic journey to work to then look in the mirror and see that my mascara has smudged! AND NO PANDA EYES at night when I’m taking my makeup off…. I’m also going through less cleanser and cotton pads. The cost of these things as well as not buying mascara as often, help me justify the price of having extensions applied. If you keep on top of them, you only need to get them infilled every 3-4 weeks. The infills are not as expensive as the first application and you’re not there as long either… Perhaps an hour and a half, give or take.

First, I tried the individual lashes which as they say, are individually applied to each of your natural lashes. I loved them because my lashes were instantly longer, darker and my eyes appeared more open. The individual lashes are quite natural looking and basically you look like you have a couple of coats of mascara on longer lashes.

I have recently tried Golden Eyelash’s popular Russian Volume lashes which as the name suggests, create more volume. The technicians apply 2+ silk lashes to each of your lashes to create a naturally voluminous or dramatic look… The girls tailor your extensions to how YOU want them to look. These lashes are much thinner than the ones they use for the individual lashes so they won’t weigh down your natural lashes at all. I had 2 lashes per natural lash as I wanted a more natural look but if you’re after a more sexy, sassy look and you apply a decent amount of makeup on a daily basis, I suggest asking for the Dramatic Russian Volume lashes. The ladies at Golden Eyelashes are fantastic at helping you achieve the right look for your eyes and Mira informed me they can create more of a ‘cat’s eye’ look too if you have almond eyes.

I love having my lashes done now and would love to continue including this in my beauty regime. I have received many compliments and everyone has commented on how natural they look. Keep in mind, I did not get the dramatic Russian Volume lashes. I am now more aware of extensions and have noticed them on many women. I must admit, I’ve seen some shockers because they looked far too long (in my opinion) and I’ve read some horror stories online so I really do suggest doing your research and not just going into any salon. I highly recommend Golden Eyelashes. You can look on their website here for FAQs, prices and booking information and I suggest having a peek at their Instagram with plenty of before and after photos too…. Head over to check out the dramatic Russian Volume lashes if that sounds appealing.

Much love

Rachael x

 

This slideshow requires JavaScript.

Set your intentions for 2017

 


It’s the end of December and we’re all reflecting on the year that’s been, perhaps we’re labelling it as a ‘good’ year or a ‘bad’ year. We are thinking of the year ahead. We are wondering how we can make it different to last year, always with the aim of moving forwards. You may be content with your 2016, and you may be feeling like you’ll go with the flow of 2017. Either way, I recommend you set some intentions to help you achieve things in life that you haven’t yet so another year doesn’t pass and you still haven’t started painting again, learning that language you’ve been meaning to learn, taken dance classes, changed the direction of your career….

I’m not talking about those couple of New Year resolutions you have each year and never achieve. I’m suggesting you think about what you REALLY want to achieve, make sure it is realistic and plan the steps you need to take to achieve your goals or intentions.

Think about what makes you happy. Is there something you want to accomplish? Are there small changes you want to make on a daily basis?

Here are my intentions for 2017:

Develop a positive and HEALTHY  mindset in relation to nutrition, exercise, my body and mind. I’m going to judge my health by how I feel, not so much how I look in the mirror and I don’t want to allow a number on a scale to determine my day or my mood. I’m not going to label my days (nutrition wise) as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ but accept that all food is abundant and accept the choices I make.

Be completely present in the amazing adventures and experiences we are having overseas. I feel I mostly do this and am ever so grateful however I know, again, sometimes if I’m not feeling confident with how I look then I’m silently criticising and judging myself! Hmm… There seems to be a pattern here and it’s not a healthy one!

Nourish and move my body in the way that SHE deserves and needs. Simple.

Learn more about nutrition because it is something I always love to learn about and at some point, I would like to further study and help others in relation to nutrition. To do this, I know I need to be ‘there’ myself; implementing the practices I believe are beneficial to us all.

Remember that we are overseas to have amazing experiences and not let my job determine my activities outside of work hours or prevent any travel. Selfish? Perhaps… but it is why we are here.

Continue to work on my marriage and show appreciation to my husband. He makes this easy… I count my lucky stars every day!

I’d love to know your intentions for 2017 if you are willing to share 😉

Thanks for reading x