Are you a social media supporter or stalker?

I’m not asking if you support social media, I’m asking if you support those you choose to ‘follow’ or ‘friend’? Be honest. Do you support them? Do you ‘like’ their posts, do you write a little comment here and there? Do you take a second of your time of day to support them and what they’re promoting because surely you are following them for a reason?!?…. Perhaps they’re a friend, they’re family, you find them interesting or inspirational, you like what they’re selling, they’re actually a cute animal or kid, they’re travelling the world, they’re living #vanlife, they post the ultimate #foodporn.

Or, perhaps you just scroll, look OR you even judge them or compare yourself to them?!?! If that was the case though surely you’d just unfollow or unfriend them? What has brought me to writing this post is that I have been reflecting on my own social media etiquette, actions and boundaries recently.

I try to abide my own boundaries. For example, I don’t like to be on social media or even have my phone on the table whilst eating a meal with my husband or with others, I turn my phone on aeroplane mode for a few hours each Sunday and I’m working on leaving my phone alone an hour or 2 before going to bed each night. I was doing this for a little while and noticed I slept so much better… No 3am wake-ups!

For me, etiquette and actions go hand in hand. I’m not one to scroll and scroll without showing a bit of love and support. I follow people for a reason and I like to acknowledge that and them with a quick little ‘like’ or comment. My scrolling goes a little like this:

Ohh that country/landscape looks beautiful…. *Like

Those pancakes look mouthwatering… *Like

Oh my goshhh, I want a tiger…. *Like and Comment, “Amazing animals” *heart emoji (Black Jaguar White Tiger often gets some love from me. 🙂 )

Wow FRIEND is talented. I love that bag… *Like

Dammnn, she looks strong/fit/like she appreciates her body… *Like & Comment, “You look incredible (muscle emoji and pink hearts)

Ohh they’re engaged…. *Like and Comment, “Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both! (flowers, ring, champagne, kiss face emojis)

And so it goes on….

How is your etiquette when asking other people questions online? If you ask someone their favourite clothing line, the ingredients to a recipe, what their workout involved, what country they’re in, do you actually say ‘Hello’ first and use your manners? Constantly, I see people asking others questions with NO politeness. Basically, I think you should talk to people on social media the same way you would if you were face to face. Just be nice people. Just. Be. nice.

I have also noticed myself, that there are a couple of people who follow me who are ALWAYS the first to watch my Instagram stories (which come up based on who YOU choose to watch) and are obviously seeing what I’m doing yet don’t do a single thing to show their support on any of the social avenues they follow me. I’ve also seen and heard people scrolling and judging people they follow… Like, really?!?! Just unfollow them! Why bother following people and becoming ‘friends’ with people if you don’t like them or what they have to share? Errggh #judgy #nosey #stalker #negativenancys

I recently went through my Instagram account and unfollowed any accounts that I no longer found interesting or that made me feel the need to compare myself to them. I was following a lot of accounts with people’s goal weights, current weights, meals counted out to the macro, and I realised they no longer served my interests. Subconsciously, I was thinking I needed to weigh XXkg to look fit, skinny or as good as ‘her’. I don’t think I’ve ever judged these people themselves, I had just judged myself against them with me always being weak, unworthy, fatter and thinking I would think I would have to eat exactly what they ate to get there. Not healthy, at all! Honestly, go through your following accounts and unfollow any that don’t make you feel great.

I love this Spirit Junkie post because I have some truly incredible friends in Australia and now the UK and we genuinely are each other’s cheerleaders wanting each other to succeed. It’s amazing having friends who believe in your ambitions, support you and are genuinely happy for your successes but are there for you if things don’t work out, which can happen often when you take risks. I have been applying this to my social media accounts too. My Instagram friends are people who inspire me, and I now follow many more people with similar mindsets and lifestyles.

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Please, choose to be a supporter and not a stalker. Or, unfollow.

Sincerely,

Supporter of beautiful destinations, family, friends, fitness, kids, animals, delicious looking food, makeup, skincare, clothing, sunsets, sunrises and all things health and wellness. xx

Rachael x

Tigerlilys Tales on Beauty: My experience with Eyelash Extensions!

little rrhI’m sure you know the story… “Oh, Granny, what big eyes you have!”

“All the better to see you with my dear!”

Come on…. can’t a gal have eyelash extensions without people jumping to conclusions?!?! Perhaps Granny was ahead of her time and had extensions??

 

Anyway, now that I have your attention. Eyelash extensions are amazing with making your eyes appear brighter, bolder and well obviously your lashes are fuller and longer… Mascara, no more! You may decide to go for volume instead of length, whichever look you prefer. It’s a beauty treatment I’ve only noticed in the last 6 months but I think I’ve been living under a rock because I’ve been reading forums and some women mention they’ve been having their lashes filled for 10 years.

I decided to give it a try, and to be honest, at first I was hesitant because I didn’t want to add an unnecessary or expensive treatment to my regime and I was concerned that they would damage my natural lashes. I wanted to give it a try though and Golden Eyelashes  in Hammersmith, London was my pick of choice.

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I could’ve plucked my brows, right?! 

If you haven’t had eyelash extensions before, here are a few tips:

  • Ensure your eyes are nice and clean from any eye makeup beforehand
  • Turn up ahead of time in case you have any questions for your technician and so you have time to chat about the look you would like
  • Be prepared to relax and enjoy laying down for potentially 2-3 hours for your first visit.

 

It doesn’t hurt when the lashes are being applied although towards the end, when it is time for you to open your eyes, you may feel some irritation or slight pain due to the fact that your lid is being pulled away after being closed for a few hours and perhaps some glue has been caught between some lashes. If you do experience any pain or discomfort, just communicate that with the technician. Mira at Golden Eyelashes has always been very knowledgeable and helpful if I’ve ever had any queries or concerns. I’ve almost fallen asleep a couple of times and many women do.

Our lashes naturally fall out and regrow therefore extensions do too. It is more noticeable though because they are thicker, longer and darker so don’t be alarmed when you see them on your pillowcase, mirror, ground… anywhere.

To ensure your lashes are well looked after and last as long as possible, it is highly advised that you do not wet them for 24 hours after having them applied, don’t use skincare or makeup products containing oil because the oil will break down the glue. Doh… I learnt this the hard way! I had bought some Charlotte Tilbury prior to having the lashes applied (which my skin is loving) so I’m now being ultra careful around the eyes. Also, mascara and eyeliners can cause them to fall out faster due to the fact that they are being tugged when you apply product and if you’re rubbing your delicate eye area to clean the makeup off. PRO: You don’t actually need mascara though! The lash technicians give you a dry mascara wand because you should brush them every day to ensure they don’t tangle which can lead to them falling out.

The only times I have been wearing eye makeup is if I have a special outing and after a few weeks when there are fewer lashes. On a daily basis, I do not apply mascara anymore and I love this! It might only be five minutes I’m saving but that’s an extra five minutes of sleep for me. I also do not miss the hectic journey to work to then look in the mirror and see that my mascara has smudged! AND NO PANDA EYES at night when I’m taking my makeup off…. I’m also going through less cleanser and cotton pads. The cost of these things as well as not buying mascara as often, help me justify the price of having extensions applied. If you keep on top of them, you only need to get them infilled every 3-4 weeks. The infills are not as expensive as the first application and you’re not there as long either… Perhaps an hour and a half, give or take.

First, I tried the individual lashes which as they say, are individually applied to each of your natural lashes. I loved them because my lashes were instantly longer, darker and my eyes appeared more open. The individual lashes are quite natural looking and basically you look like you have a couple of coats of mascara on longer lashes.

I have recently tried Golden Eyelash’s popular Russian Volume lashes which as the name suggests, create more volume. The technicians apply 2+ silk lashes to each of your lashes to create a naturally voluminous or dramatic look… The girls tailor your extensions to how YOU want them to look. These lashes are much thinner than the ones they use for the individual lashes so they won’t weigh down your natural lashes at all. I had 2 lashes per natural lash as I wanted a more natural look but if you’re after a more sexy, sassy look and you apply a decent amount of makeup on a daily basis, I suggest asking for the Dramatic Russian Volume lashes. The ladies at Golden Eyelashes are fantastic at helping you achieve the right look for your eyes and Mira informed me they can create more of a ‘cat’s eye’ look too if you have almond eyes.

I love having my lashes done now and would love to continue including this in my beauty regime. I have received many compliments and everyone has commented on how natural they look. Keep in mind, I did not get the dramatic Russian Volume lashes. I am now more aware of extensions and have noticed them on many women. I must admit, I’ve seen some shockers because they looked far too long (in my opinion) and I’ve read some horror stories online so I really do suggest doing your research and not just going into any salon. I highly recommend Golden Eyelashes. You can look on their website here for FAQs, prices and booking information and I suggest having a peek at their Instagram with plenty of before and after photos too…. Head over to check out the dramatic Russian Volume lashes if that sounds appealing.

Much love

Rachael x

 

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Christmas Abroad Tips

No matter what your religion (or non-religion) Christmas time usually equates to being with loved ones, celebrating with loved ones, enjoying carols, good food and giving; presence or presents with loved ones.

Being abroad for Christmas can be so incredibly exciting (and perhaps a little daunting) especially being in the opposite hemisphere. Perhaps it’s a new Summer Christmas experience for you sipping on a cool beverage by the beach or pool with ongoing cricket challenges. Perhaps it’s a first ‘White Christmas’ with Christmas sweaters on the top of your list to buy before Advent.

This is my first ‘Winter Christmas’ and the entire lead up has been so fulfilling and exciting for me. Growing up, I’ve always watched the Christmas movies with snow, goofy sweaters and watching the film characters getting cosy by the fire places with a glass of chosen beverage in hand.

It can be hard being away from your home, your family and your Christmas traditions though. I know I’ve had my moments of thoughts creeping in and feeling that pang BUT I am also wanting to make the most of this Christmas abroad and experience it as such. 

Here are some tips to help:

Look up the traditional Christmas rituals where you are living and also within your workplace. Note: Secret Santa, whether you give presents on the 24th or the 25th, enjoying winter markets or ice skating.

Do they wear certain things or have  acitivites leading up to Christmas that you can do? Think: Christmas sweaters or shirts.


Organise an orphan’s Christmas party with others in the same position as you. If you don’t know anyone, keep an eye out on social media pages such as the ‘Aussies in London’ Facebook group. Our housemates are all Aussies so we all chipped in for an Aussie Orphan’s Christmas lunch at ours in the true English manner with a roast and home-made mulled wine! *This will be an annual recipe although perhaps we will have  Christmas in July in Australia so it’s cool enough outside to enjoy it!

​Be excited about your upcoming unique Christmas experience. You know it is a one-off so make the most of it! Wear those goofy Christmas sweaters with pride! 

Talk to your loved ones back home. Naturally, you may feel a little low but just remember that you are having an incredible experience and are making memories. Remember to be grateful of your opportunity. 

Admittedly, I’ve been so fortunate this year as my mum flew all the way to London from Australia for a week before Christmas. We gave her a taste of the Winter Christmas too, topped with a Christmas sweater, of course! She left on the 21st and on the 24th Kurt and I will be flying to Latvia to spend Christmas there with friends. We are incredibly excited for this trip. New Year will then be celebrated in Edinburgh for Hogmanay. 


Please, if you’ve had a Christmas abroad, I’d love to know your experiences or perhaps you can add some more helpful tips! 

Merry Christmas Everyone! xo