Are you a social media supporter or stalker?

I’m not asking if you support social media, I’m asking if you support those you choose to ‘follow’ or ‘friend’? Be honest. Do you support them? Do you ‘like’ their posts, do you write a little comment here and there? Do you take a second of your time of day to support them and what they’re promoting because surely you are following them for a reason?!?…. Perhaps they’re a friend, they’re family, you find them interesting or inspirational, you like what they’re selling, they’re actually a cute animal or kid, they’re travelling the world, they’re living #vanlife, they post the ultimate #foodporn.

Or, perhaps you just scroll, look OR you even judge them or compare yourself to them?!?! If that was the case though surely you’d just unfollow or unfriend them? What has brought me to writing this post is that I have been reflecting on my own social media etiquette, actions and boundaries recently.

I try to abide my own boundaries. For example, I don’t like to be on social media or even have my phone on the table whilst eating a meal with my husband or with others, I turn my phone on aeroplane mode for a few hours each Sunday and I’m working on leaving my phone alone an hour or 2 before going to bed each night. I was doing this for a little while and noticed I slept so much better… No 3am wake-ups!

For me, etiquette and actions go hand in hand. I’m not one to scroll and scroll without showing a bit of love and support. I follow people for a reason and I like to acknowledge that and them with a quick little ‘like’ or comment. My scrolling goes a little like this:

Ohh that country/landscape looks beautiful…. *Like

Those pancakes look mouthwatering… *Like

Oh my goshhh, I want a tiger…. *Like and Comment, “Amazing animals” *heart emoji (Black Jaguar White Tiger often gets some love from me. 🙂 )

Wow FRIEND is talented. I love that bag… *Like

Dammnn, she looks strong/fit/like she appreciates her body… *Like & Comment, “You look incredible (muscle emoji and pink hearts)

Ohh they’re engaged…. *Like and Comment, “Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both! (flowers, ring, champagne, kiss face emojis)

And so it goes on….

How is your etiquette when asking other people questions online? If you ask someone their favourite clothing line, the ingredients to a recipe, what their workout involved, what country they’re in, do you actually say ‘Hello’ first and use your manners? Constantly, I see people asking others questions with NO politeness. Basically, I think you should talk to people on social media the same way you would if you were face to face. Just be nice people. Just. Be. nice.

I have also noticed myself, that there are a couple of people who follow me who are ALWAYS the first to watch my Instagram stories (which come up based on who YOU choose to watch) and are obviously seeing what I’m doing yet don’t do a single thing to show their support on any of the social avenues they follow me. I’ve also seen and heard people scrolling and judging people they follow… Like, really?!?! Just unfollow them! Why bother following people and becoming ‘friends’ with people if you don’t like them or what they have to share? Errggh #judgy #nosey #stalker #negativenancys

I recently went through my Instagram account and unfollowed any accounts that I no longer found interesting or that made me feel the need to compare myself to them. I was following a lot of accounts with people’s goal weights, current weights, meals counted out to the macro, and I realised they no longer served my interests. Subconsciously, I was thinking I needed to weigh XXkg to look fit, skinny or as good as ‘her’. I don’t think I’ve ever judged these people themselves, I had just judged myself against them with me always being weak, unworthy, fatter and thinking I would think I would have to eat exactly what they ate to get there. Not healthy, at all! Honestly, go through your following accounts and unfollow any that don’t make you feel great.

I love this Spirit Junkie post because I have some truly incredible friends in Australia and now the UK and we genuinely are each other’s cheerleaders wanting each other to succeed. It’s amazing having friends who believe in your ambitions, support you and are genuinely happy for your successes but are there for you if things don’t work out, which can happen often when you take risks. I have been applying this to my social media accounts too. My Instagram friends are people who inspire me, and I now follow many more people with similar mindsets and lifestyles.

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Please, choose to be a supporter and not a stalker. Or, unfollow.

Sincerely,

Supporter of beautiful destinations, family, friends, fitness, kids, animals, delicious looking food, makeup, skincare, clothing, sunsets, sunrises and all things health and wellness. xx

Rachael x

Body Confidence Squad Goals

SQUAD GOALS!

There is a dark side to social media. As much as I love it, this is the reality. FEMPOWER however, challenge this and are the ultimate #girlsquad.

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@whatroseyate and I being ‘FEMPOWERED’ 💪

It is so important to remember that most of the time, people like to portray the best parts of their lives on social media… The best images (#guilty), the best angles (you know, take 50 selfies, keep and post the ‘best’ one) and the best experiences. You scroll through Instagram and see picture after picture of model-type women (and men) with ‘perfect’ physiques. This is something I can appreciate because I like to follow a number of #strong and ‘fitspo’ women who work hard for their physiques but it is also concerning for myself and other women, teenagers and girls because I know there are times when I compare myself to them. I feel concerned for my younger, impressionable sisters and nieces that they too will face it and believe they must look a certain way instead of loving themselves for who they are, what they look like and importantly, what they can achieve.

 

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Yesterday I attended an Empowering Women’s event at the beautiful Lorna Jane Active Living Room in Covent Garden, London. Melissa Weldon, founder of FEMPOWER, led the panel which included Philippa Lewis from the Be Real Campaign. Five courageous women shared their personal experiences and growth stories, all in relation to abolishing negative body image beliefs and empowering women to believe that they are in fact, ‘enough’. These ladies had unique stories and looking around the room (and reading Instagram posts), you could see that the remaining 4o women in the audience were touched and inspired in some way by the panelists.

Melissa Weldon then led a killer HIIT workout in Saint Martin’s Courtyard… The tunes were pumping, the FEMPOWER squad were joining in, dancing and cheering us all on. My legs feel like jelly today! It was SO.MUCH.FUN and an incredibly supportive atmosphere. After some alcoholic beverages the night before, it was a great way to help shake off a hangover too. 😉

Everyone left with goodie bags, FITTY boxes, a Protein Haus smoothie and some with a Bol salad. Ahhhmaaazing! The goodie bags were incredible! Take a look… I am set for a while!

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The best thing was that all proceeds went to the Be Real Campaign charity. One of the areas Be Real focuses on is educating people from a young age; their aim is for children to have a “body confident start to life”. As a teacher, a big sister, an aunty and hopefully a future mum, this made my heart sing.

Job well done to Lorna Jane UK for walking the talk with your move, nourish, believe philosophy, to FEMPOWER & Be Real for inspiring women like myself to accept that we are enough.

Links:

FEMPOWER: http://www.fempoweruk.com

Be Real: http://www.berealcampaign.co.uk

Lorna Jane UK: https://www.lornajane.co.uk

Lorna Jane Aus: https://www.lornajane.com.au