Are you a social media supporter or stalker?

I’m not asking if you support social media, I’m asking if you support those you choose to ‘follow’ or ‘friend’? Be honest. Do you support them? Do you ‘like’ their posts, do you write a little comment here and there? Do you take a second of your time of day to support them and what they’re promoting because surely you are following them for a reason?!?…. Perhaps they’re a friend, they’re family, you find them interesting or inspirational, you like what they’re selling, they’re actually a cute animal or kid, they’re travelling the world, they’re living #vanlife, they post the ultimate #foodporn.

Or, perhaps you just scroll, look OR you even judge them or compare yourself to them?!?! If that was the case though surely you’d just unfollow or unfriend them? What has brought me to writing this post is that I have been reflecting on my own social media etiquette, actions and boundaries recently.

I try to abide my own boundaries. For example, I don’t like to be on social media or even have my phone on the table whilst eating a meal with my husband or with others, I turn my phone on aeroplane mode for a few hours each Sunday and I’m working on leaving my phone alone an hour or 2 before going to bed each night. I was doing this for a little while and noticed I slept so much better… No 3am wake-ups!

For me, etiquette and actions go hand in hand. I’m not one to scroll and scroll without showing a bit of love and support. I follow people for a reason and I like to acknowledge that and them with a quick little ‘like’ or comment. My scrolling goes a little like this:

Ohh that country/landscape looks beautiful…. *Like

Those pancakes look mouthwatering… *Like

Oh my goshhh, I want a tiger…. *Like and Comment, “Amazing animals” *heart emoji (Black Jaguar White Tiger often gets some love from me. 🙂 )

Wow FRIEND is talented. I love that bag… *Like

Dammnn, she looks strong/fit/like she appreciates her body… *Like & Comment, “You look incredible (muscle emoji and pink hearts)

Ohh they’re engaged…. *Like and Comment, “Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both! (flowers, ring, champagne, kiss face emojis)

And so it goes on….

How is your etiquette when asking other people questions online? If you ask someone their favourite clothing line, the ingredients to a recipe, what their workout involved, what country they’re in, do you actually say ‘Hello’ first and use your manners? Constantly, I see people asking others questions with NO politeness. Basically, I think you should talk to people on social media the same way you would if you were face to face. Just be nice people. Just. Be. nice.

I have also noticed myself, that there are a couple of people who follow me who are ALWAYS the first to watch my Instagram stories (which come up based on who YOU choose to watch) and are obviously seeing what I’m doing yet don’t do a single thing to show their support on any of the social avenues they follow me. I’ve also seen and heard people scrolling and judging people they follow… Like, really?!?! Just unfollow them! Why bother following people and becoming ‘friends’ with people if you don’t like them or what they have to share? Errggh #judgy #nosey #stalker #negativenancys

I recently went through my Instagram account and unfollowed any accounts that I no longer found interesting or that made me feel the need to compare myself to them. I was following a lot of accounts with people’s goal weights, current weights, meals counted out to the macro, and I realised they no longer served my interests. Subconsciously, I was thinking I needed to weigh XXkg to look fit, skinny or as good as ‘her’. I don’t think I’ve ever judged these people themselves, I had just judged myself against them with me always being weak, unworthy, fatter and thinking I would think I would have to eat exactly what they ate to get there. Not healthy, at all! Honestly, go through your following accounts and unfollow any that don’t make you feel great.

I love this Spirit Junkie post because I have some truly incredible friends in Australia and now the UK and we genuinely are each other’s cheerleaders wanting each other to succeed. It’s amazing having friends who believe in your ambitions, support you and are genuinely happy for your successes but are there for you if things don’t work out, which can happen often when you take risks. I have been applying this to my social media accounts too. My Instagram friends are people who inspire me, and I now follow many more people with similar mindsets and lifestyles.

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Please, choose to be a supporter and not a stalker. Or, unfollow.

Sincerely,

Supporter of beautiful destinations, family, friends, fitness, kids, animals, delicious looking food, makeup, skincare, clothing, sunsets, sunrises and all things health and wellness. xx

Rachael x

Set your intentions for 2017

 


It’s the end of December and we’re all reflecting on the year that’s been, perhaps we’re labelling it as a ‘good’ year or a ‘bad’ year. We are thinking of the year ahead. We are wondering how we can make it different to last year, always with the aim of moving forwards. You may be content with your 2016, and you may be feeling like you’ll go with the flow of 2017. Either way, I recommend you set some intentions to help you achieve things in life that you haven’t yet so another year doesn’t pass and you still haven’t started painting again, learning that language you’ve been meaning to learn, taken dance classes, changed the direction of your career….

I’m not talking about those couple of New Year resolutions you have each year and never achieve. I’m suggesting you think about what you REALLY want to achieve, make sure it is realistic and plan the steps you need to take to achieve your goals or intentions.

Think about what makes you happy. Is there something you want to accomplish? Are there small changes you want to make on a daily basis?

Here are my intentions for 2017:

Develop a positive and HEALTHY  mindset in relation to nutrition, exercise, my body and mind. I’m going to judge my health by how I feel, not so much how I look in the mirror and I don’t want to allow a number on a scale to determine my day or my mood. I’m not going to label my days (nutrition wise) as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ but accept that all food is abundant and accept the choices I make.

Be completely present in the amazing adventures and experiences we are having overseas. I feel I mostly do this and am ever so grateful however I know, again, sometimes if I’m not feeling confident with how I look then I’m silently criticising and judging myself! Hmm… There seems to be a pattern here and it’s not a healthy one!

Nourish and move my body in the way that SHE deserves and needs. Simple.

Learn more about nutrition because it is something I always love to learn about and at some point, I would like to further study and help others in relation to nutrition. To do this, I know I need to be ‘there’ myself; implementing the practices I believe are beneficial to us all.

Remember that we are overseas to have amazing experiences and not let my job determine my activities outside of work hours or prevent any travel. Selfish? Perhaps… but it is why we are here.

Continue to work on my marriage and show appreciation to my husband. He makes this easy… I count my lucky stars every day!

I’d love to know your intentions for 2017 if you are willing to share 😉

Thanks for reading x

Discipline.

img_8076Discipline. It is my new favourite word. To heck with motivation. What is that anyway? If you’re like me you will feel like you are constantly on this mouse wheel going round and round waiting for this motivation. Motivation to go to the gym. Motivation to go for a walk. Motivation to do our meal prep. Motivation to work. We set these goals for ourselves like, “I want to lose x kilos.” “I want to tone up my arms/legs/back/whatever.” But to get to those goals, some of us, not all, are constantly in this cycle of waiting for motivation. We catch ourselves saying things such as, “I’m not motivated at the moment. I’ll do it later.” Or, ” I’ll work up the motivation to do it tomorrow.” Sound familiar?!? I call bulls*#t on motivation; waiting for motivation!

If you want to achieve something. It requires discipline. Make yourself do it! Make the time. Make yourself get going. Make the most of TODAY. Please, don’t get me wrong. I am no pro and it is something I’ve just started to figure out myself and I am in the process of learning and more importantly, DOING. I feel like I’ve suddenly had something switch on in my brain. An ‘aha’ moment.

Each morning and evening, I am sure you are disciplined to brush your teeth, shower and get to work. We are not necesarily motivated to do these things but we know they just need to be done. If you have a health or fitness related goal to achieve, just do it. Do what is required to get you there. Don’t think about it. Don’t let thoughts of motivation creep in… I actually feel like I have been tricked by this word, ‘motivation‘ for a long time. Discipline is my new motivation. It is going to get me closer to my goals. It will get you closer to yours too.

Only you are responsible for your own choices, no-one else. Eat out often? Make healthy choices – salads, wraps, fish and veggies. Busy? Workout at home. Kayla’s workouts are 28 minutes plus there are so many workouts these days on Youtube. Another biggie – LIMIT ALCOHOL.. Empty calories. We hardly drink these days and when we do, I usually drink Gin and tonic… I’m still getting used to the taste. Set some rules and be disciplined to stick to them. E..g., I will workout 4 times this week, I will track what I eat and eat 80% healthy nutritious meals.

I have started following Kayla Itsines BBG program (again). I am someone who gets caught up and feels ‘lost’ if I miss a workout on the ‘right’ day or if I go on holidays for a week, I NEED to start again and then because these things constantly come up (holidays, sick…), I feel disheartened, quit, move on to something else and it is a never ending cycle. This time, my goal is to just complete the 12 weeks, when I can. I am not getting hung on on days. I have a monthly calendar printed out with my BBG workouts on it and I tick each workout once it is done, no matter what day I actually do it! It requires discipline. So far, so good. I’ve also started tracking my nutrition on paper. At the end of every day, I write down ALL meals and snacks. At the end of the week, I am counting up how many meals altogether and how many of those were poor choices. In the first week, there were A LOT of poor choices. I know this may seem obsessive and extreme… I don’t want to label food as ‘good/bad’ but I do feel for me, at this stage, it is what I need to do to really see what I’m eating. img_2788

My goal is certainly not to eat less overall or cut ‘bad’ foods out but I definitely am working on decreasing the number of ‘poor choices’. Trust me, the number was HIGH!! TOO HIGH! Before doing this though, my mind would constantly justify things by thinking, “it’s only 1-2 chocolates and every other meal today has been clean/healthy. You would be 80% clean overall”. WRONG! I was definitely not eating 80% nutritious food. Eating healthy requires discipline too. I have a major sweet tooth. I L O V E ice-cream and chocolate but I’m learning to say no. I am starting to be disciplined. I am reaching for healthier options more often because I need to stay disciplined to reach my goals. I am ensuring some meal prep is done each weekend ready for the week ahead. I am making myself go to the gym or workout at home, even when I don’t feel motivated because it is what I need to do to achieve my goals.

Go on, try it! Replace ‘motivation’ with discipline! As NIKE quotes, “Just Do It!”

#discipline #moveovermotivation

 

xx

 

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Emma – jandelifeblog.wordpress.com

Paola – paolasbodybarre.com

Ashley – Ashleyyeater.com

and me xo